Rape is more of a Psychological trauma and over a period of time women do come out of it once they get settled married , have kids or one fine day when they realise that it was not a rape but consensual and they did'y feel like admitting it. There is no doubt that for a few years they may stay away from men , hate them , wanna kill them for no reason and even get attracted to women , worst case scenario. But do they loose their "womenliness" by getting raped. May be a new world of enlightenement opens up specially for some of the victims who are unaware of what's happening to them . And you never know sometimes after may be a couple of mins women start enjoying it . There is a great saying that " When rape is evident Might well enjoy it" . So how can it be proved that when a women was getting raped she did nt enjoy it at all? Is there a measure of it ? I dont know and I dont think so.
Now lets come to the Bobbytizing part of this discussion . A few years back when a guy was cheating on his wife and she came to know about his other Mis-adventures in bed with other women; one fine day when he was about to make his own wife happy , in the process lost his tool as his wife sliced it and threw it in a river nearby. Now the question is and I am sure any man reading this can understand how it feels to be without one. He cant feel it , can't scrach it and do other necessary things with it.
Women on the other hand has had been mentally tarumatized may be , had some fun in the process may be , got enlightened may be and here this guy is done, come undone.
Now one more thing that arises in my mind is lets take the same situation but reversing the scenerio. A man is raped may be by a women, a man or some alien. If its a women SC does nt categorize it as a rape , Men can 't be raped they say , ask Mr Michael Douglas who was literally raped by Demi Moore in some movie based on a Novel by Micheal Crichton. Why this Injustice. I am sure rape for man can be more painful than women given a certain scenario. Now coming to the seconf scenario but I am sorry how to put it , oh I cant cause there is no scenario in the women's case, they can't be Bobbytized.
I asked a guy once which crime do you hate most? His answer was a crime which when I commit is fine but if some other man commits is the worst . He was referring to rape indirectly.
I think no matter what a crime is and how bad it can be if the motive of the crime can be justified for example if your neihbour tries and rape your daughter and in return you also do it , it can be justified. But when there is no good motive like you are drinking and driving and you kill someone, you are done , no defendable motive at all. Unless and Untill you were having "great fun " in the car with your women friend and she just enjoyed it soo much that she bites your manliness leaving you handicapped and one man dead.
Its all perspective , is what I ahve realized and now again mine can be differnet from yours.
I started this blog to write something meaningful and now again its the readers perspective.
Abhishek
