Tuesday, July 7, 2009

Love at the First sight

On my flight back to home .. i was more nervous than happy .. every Indian girl I saw in the flight , a flight from London which has more Indians than usual, reminded me about those old Hindi Songs ".... Isiliye mummy nain meri , tujhe chai pe bulaya hai" ( Thats why my mom has called you for tea...in other words to meet the guy her daughter is dating) . Some of them were really good looking nice face, beautiful eyes and long black hair. A sight that can take you in a flash back ... with colours not black and white ..a picture that reminds you of the good old days with perfect love , romance marriage and Kids. A nice happy sight and you start thinking . But then there is a catch you cant just look at the face, and then the unholy journey starts where the brain stops thinking and manliness starts "thinking" . You go deep down in those oceas where doing a Breast stroke was your dream from childhood. All the movies that you used to watch when parenst were away came back into your present like a flash light. But its all love , love at first sight with just a couple chozen ones every day.
The plane lands and so the hope of talking to at least one of them for more than one minute. People are always sadist , they love to interrupt just when you are about the crack the best of the lines ever said in the history of love , love at first sight. And again you go home thinking at least should have taken the phone number.
Not even a week passes and you are already done , 3/3 failed to impress you and you think just three more to go. But why dont I get to meet those chozen ones whom I left on the way back. Arrange marriage is such a nice flexible , strong system which gives both men and women the equal right to chooze sometimes just after a meet of 2 min. It does nt happen in the most cases but than again some people are again the chozen ones. Their fate is decieded even before they had eaten the first "laddoo" ( a sweet) and with that sweet taste in the mouth .

Now comes the official blind date , with the whole family . Have you ever talke on the climate of Dilli for 2 hrs and ya same thing again and again sometimes from the father and sometimes from the brother. You are in one of the most un-cool clothes cause your mom watned you to look youger and slimmer , and then the climate discussion. Then someone will start boasting about theie relatives in US , huh when will they understand we all have some Indians everywhere , we are the gloabal ones:) .
Then after a while you are given order and request depending on how irritted your parents are with you as you are not showing the best of your moods. You go on the side table and talked to the most clothed women you have ever seen in the hot weather of 45degrees. Man how to check ourt if she has the best you again dreamt from when you were a child who had just learnt swimming. The deal is cancelled cause she was looking for someone more sensible and mature and thast the roumour you hear when as per "they" say you cancelled the deal. its funny .

One more think dont forget to lie if you dont , you dont wanna face your parents again. They will make you feel like you are a Ram who just turned into a Ravan .

Next week one more experience gets added to your credit. You feel wiser and smarter. You feel focussed and realise the whole reason why Mahatama Ghandhi fought for freedom . Its the best thing that can happen to anyone and everyone again thinking of those beautiful faces i saw .. taking my flight again....


Tuesday, June 30, 2009

Karma and Dharma

I have always been trying to find an answer to some things which I know I will never find an answer to. A few days back ,after visiting a local club , at around 4 am in the morning I was having a discussion with a few of my buddies. The topic was what is bigger crime raping a girl or bobbytizing ( slicing a man 's manliness) a man , and which can be justified.

Rape is more of a Psychological trauma and over a period of time women do come out of it once they get settled married , have kids or one fine day when they realise that it was not a rape but consensual and they did'y feel like admitting it. There is no doubt that for a few years they may stay away from men , hate them , wanna kill them for no reason and even get attracted to women , worst case scenario. But do they loose their "womenliness" by getting raped. May be a new world of enlightenement opens up specially for some of the victims who are unaware of what's happening to them . And you never know sometimes after may be a couple of mins women start enjoying it . There is a great saying that " When rape is evident Might well enjoy it" . So how can it be proved that when a women was getting raped she did nt enjoy it at all? Is there a measure of it ? I dont know and I dont think so.
Now lets come to the Bobbytizing part of this discussion . A few years back when a guy was cheating on his wife and she came to know about his other Mis-adventures in bed with other women; one fine day when he was about to make his own wife happy , in the process lost his tool as his wife sliced it and threw it in a river nearby. Now the question is and I am sure any man reading this can understand how it feels to be without one. He cant feel it , can't scrach it and do other necessary things with it.
Women on the other hand has had been mentally tarumatized may be , had some fun in the process may be , got enlightened may be and here this guy is done, come undone.

Now one more thing that arises in my mind is lets take the same situation but reversing the scenerio. A man is raped may be by a women, a man or some alien. If its a women SC does nt categorize it as a rape , Men can 't be raped they say , ask Mr Michael Douglas who was literally raped by Demi Moore in some movie based on a Novel by Micheal Crichton. Why this Injustice. I am sure rape for man can be more painful than women given a certain scenario. Now coming to the seconf scenario but I am sorry how to put it , oh I cant cause there is no scenario in the women's case, they can't be Bobbytized.

I asked a guy once which crime do you hate most? His answer was a crime which when I commit is fine but if some other man commits is the worst . He was referring to rape indirectly.

I think no matter what a crime is and how bad it can be if the motive of the crime can be justified for example if your neihbour tries and rape your daughter and in return you also do it , it can be justified. But when there is no good motive like you are drinking and driving and you kill someone, you are done , no defendable motive at all. Unless and Untill you were having "great fun " in the car with your women friend and she just enjoyed it soo much that she bites your manliness leaving you handicapped and one man dead.
Its all perspective , is what I ahve realized and now again mine can be differnet from yours.

I started this blog to write something meaningful and now again its the readers perspective.

Abhishek